tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post972481777575372320..comments2024-03-27T12:58:00.592-07:00Comments on Snowbrush: What do I care?Snowbrushhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comBlogger71125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-7302969043457409742009-09-12T21:55:15.238-07:002009-09-12T21:55:15.238-07:00People are Just always afraid of what they don'...People are Just always afraid of what they don't know and why is what we should ask. I was afraid to find out and my worst night mare came true. But I walk tall now and face life with new understanding and a purpose.<br /><br />My goal is to save as many livves as I can from people that have HIV/AIDS some know and some don't I want to reach them all. <br /><br />http://www.hivmississippi.blogspot.comResidual Cash Foreverhttp://www.moneyonlineeasy.wsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-15309512105429388952009-09-05T11:51:11.474-07:002009-09-05T11:51:11.474-07:00Violet, we agree again!Violet, we agree again!Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-23793640238846834102009-09-04T11:11:13.819-07:002009-09-04T11:11:13.819-07:00This was quite an interesting story. I can identif...This was quite an interesting story. I can identify with not "caring" for people that I'm not really attatched to. In that situation, I probably would have made the effort to some-what console the person as well, just because it's somewhat of the "moral" thing to do, but I wouldn't have REALLY have cared either. I can truly understand that. And I think most people would as well. It was a nice effort that you made, to delay your nice snack waiting back at home, lol.TASHIAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15855720228890183473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-26213221267698818622009-08-28T06:27:48.305-07:002009-08-28T06:27:48.305-07:00KJ, thanks for stopping by.
Lisa: "I can see...KJ, thanks for stopping by.<br /><br />Lisa: "I can see in this situation compassion was needed and you extended that to her, which was more than a lot of people would have done. In this instance, I don't know where justice came into the picture. I mean, are you talking in general?"<br /><br />Yes. I had mistakenly thought you were talking in general, so that was how I responded.<br /><br />Chapati, so great to have you visit.Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-35845912729101414612009-08-15T03:00:38.708-07:002009-08-15T03:00:38.708-07:00Hi Snowbrush, thanks for visiting my blog. You don...Hi Snowbrush, thanks for visiting my blog. You don't give yourself enough credit; as so many people have pointed out a lot of people would have walked on by. Well done for being there for her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-19175831116088260062009-08-09T20:45:11.030-07:002009-08-09T20:45:11.030-07:00Lisa "Compassion is really what we owe one an...Lisa "Compassion is really what we owe one another as human beings."<br /><br />My first thought was yes. Then, I remembered that justice also has its place. How do you reconcile the two?<br /><br />Hey Snowbrush, I can see in this situation compassion was needed and you extended that to her, which was more than a lot of people would have done. In this instance, I don't know where justice came into the picture. I mean, are you talking in general?<br /><br />LisaLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14434652272208137204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-38787147628614084212009-08-03T19:59:40.903-07:002009-08-03T19:59:40.903-07:00to not be attached to the result is a very wise ap...to not be attached to the result is a very wise approach, snowbrush . i could stand to learn it better...<br /><br />xoxokjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-67428929029733998202009-08-03T14:59:21.617-07:002009-08-03T14:59:21.617-07:00KJ "it sounds like this woman is mentally ill...KJ "it sounds like this woman is mentally ill."<br /><br />I see mental illness as a continuum rather than a place where you either are or you aren't. That said, I'm sure you're right.<br /><br />KJ "why not let compassion rule for at least a few minutes before impatience takes over?"<br /><br />I agree. I didn't do it very well on this occasion, although I made the effort to keep my feelings to myself. I've found that people sometimes feel good about an interaction with me despite the fact that I might think I let them down. Conversely, they might feel disappointed when I thought everything went well. I therefore try to not be too attached to results, but to simply do what I can in the moment.Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-10576060696619366742009-07-29T22:31:12.560-07:002009-07-29T22:31:12.560-07:00hey, i want to add another two cents. it sounds li...hey, i want to add another two cents. it sounds like this woman is mentally ill. people can't always help themselves: sometimes it's not as easy as saying 'get over it'.<br /><br />why not let compassion rule for at least a few minutes before impatience takes over?<br /><br />xo snowbrushkjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-23225215732185981762009-07-28T10:18:48.166-07:002009-07-28T10:18:48.166-07:00In this land that rarely sees temperatures above 9...In this land that rarely sees temperatures above 90 (and usually much lower than that), it is over 100 today, and is supposed to remain that way for several days. Since I, like most people here, don't have air conditioning, I am crabby. I will try really hard to not take it out on you.<br /><br />Swan "I commend you for being your authentic self..."<br /><br />Thank you, Swan. I find it far easier to write authentically after an event than to live authentically through it. I honestly don't even know what it would look like to live authentically, or whether it would be a better way to live--at least all the time. I don't mean to be argumentative, but to express my confusion, confusion being my most authentic self much of the time. <br /><br />Susan "not sure what I would have done in those circumstances...probably hurried to my car and called 911."<br /><br />I think it likely that many of my readers either live in small towns, or in areas of greater propriety. Seeing such behavior in public is not uncommon here. There is even a clinic that sends people out to do curb-side counseling.<br /><br />Mariana "the one thing that I do not like about them sometimes is that they thing they have the right to harm otheres given their condition"<br /><br />Anger is a way to escape helplessness--or at least feelings of helplessness. Men turn to it more readily than women for some reason, especially if they are young. I think of this as being partially due to high levels of testosterone. The older I get, the more I think of testosterone as being poisonous in more than small doses. <br /><br />Thanks for inquiring after my health, Soulbrush. I am back on narcotics (which is another reason I feel crabby). Every time I think I'll getting a foot-up on the pain, it comes roaring back.<br /><br />Reasons "there are lots of people I'd like to say I would help but most likely not this one"<br /><br />I didn't know what her story was until I stopped. Then, because I stopped, I felt obligated. I couldn't have brought myself to tell her that I was there to help, but only if she had a problem that I found acceptable. <br /><br />Brooklyn Beauty "Did you finally get to your peanut butter and crackers?"<br /><br />Yes, I did. You're from Brooklyn but now live in Florida, if I recall correctly. When Peggy and I left Mississippi, we seriously considered two possible places to relocate. One was Staten Island, and the other here in Oregon. I liked NYC. Whether I could really have lived there happily over the long term is questionable, but I liked it.Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-21808937065256904342009-07-28T08:17:30.970-07:002009-07-28T08:17:30.970-07:00You did your good deed.... I can't say that I ...You did your good deed.... I can't say that I would make something that personal a problem for a stranger to help me with. I agree completely panic attacks from what I know take a little bit to wear off. Did you finally get to your peanut butter and crackers?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-50744886661499594702009-07-26T13:58:13.349-07:002009-07-26T13:58:13.349-07:00Nope, I'm impressed you took the time that you...Nope, I'm impressed you took the time that you did. There are lots of people I'd like to say I would help but most likely not this one, she sounds like the type who could milk anyone dry and still be lamenting her own losses in life.Reasonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03070633072307321162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-52977580448644607632009-07-26T03:24:39.192-07:002009-07-26T03:24:39.192-07:00popping in to see how you are doing? hows the pain...popping in to see how you are doing? hows the pain? hows the mind? hows your day? hope all going steadily and manageable, from one brush to another, with hugs.soulbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16879115279499153124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-6719865899118814352009-07-26T00:03:57.579-07:002009-07-26T00:03:57.579-07:00What a crazy story, well I guess many people are c...What a crazy story, well I guess many people are crazy or have attacks. <br />The one thing that I do not like about them sometimes is that they thing they have the right to harm otheres given their conditionMariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-13277692096415881412009-07-24T23:30:29.034-07:002009-07-24T23:30:29.034-07:00Wow...this was such an honest post...admire you fo...Wow...this was such an honest post...admire you for that. Not sure what I would have done in those circumstances...probably hurried to my car and called 911...the easy, chicken way out. :-) Sounds like she just wanted a lot of attention. You were a good person to try to help. I think she needs some fairly long and intensive help...maybe even some meds.<br />SusanSusan (Between Naps On The Porch.net)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09655622740971576915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-53886464795392241242009-07-23T21:44:44.501-07:002009-07-23T21:44:44.501-07:00I commend you for being your authentic self... I ...I commend you for being your authentic self... I think it takes a brave person to live in this way un-ashamed. And your writing is good solid writing, you have a good stride to your work, a fine meter and execution.swanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03570724226491054508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-22192770392887677312009-07-23T18:35:57.916-07:002009-07-23T18:35:57.916-07:00Cynthia "A first hand lesson in pithiness!&qu...Cynthia "A first hand lesson in pithiness!"<br /><br />Yes, Pitiless is my first name, which is why I go by my last name, Snowbrush. Oh, wait, you said "pithiness." Thank you.<br /><br />Barry "you've planted a seed of an idea that might yet bare fruit."<br /><br />I hope that it will be so. Thank you, Barry.<br /><br />KJ "it's me, your demi-godding new friend.'<br /><br />Hail, KJ. All fall prostate at her name--either that or prostrate; I can't keep them straight.<br /><br />Jane "I would have walked away because I think she may have been seeking attention as opposed to a solution"<br /><br />My dear, friend, I am not sure that, even if you are right, that denying her the attention she so desperately craved would have been the better course. I (and, I suspect, you) have often craved attention, because attention implied caring; therefore to have walked away would have implied a lack of caring. I did so little as it was. I spent fifteen minutes, if that, listening to a terribly unhappy person and giving her such comfort as I could in my un-compassionate frame of mind. In retrospect, it seems like so little. I can but hope that what I managed so reluctantly to give was better than nothing. <br /><br />I came across a quotation today by Mother Teresa. It goes, in essence at least. <br /><br />"The most important thing is kindness.<br />The second most important thing is kindness.<br />The third most important is kindness."<br /><br />In trying unsuccessfully just now to look up the exact quotation, I came across an interesting site that has nothing but quotations about kindness by various people:<br /><br />http://focusonkindness.com/3.htmlSnowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-90566893550726793162009-07-23T16:02:59.629-07:002009-07-23T16:02:59.629-07:00"Walking away abruptly would have added to he..."Walking away abruptly would have added to her despair, and I HAD stopped to help."<br /><br />I would have walked away because I think she may have been seeking attention as opposed to a solution to her personal problem. I stay with, for me, I would have walked away after advising her to find some professional help.<br /><br />Cool that you bake, Snow! My experience has been that when a man bakes, he's usually a really GOOD baker!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16813508472498593787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-8621180885620865992009-07-23T13:14:42.572-07:002009-07-23T13:14:42.572-07:00it's me, your demi-godding new friend. just st...it's me, your demi-godding new friend. just stopping by to say hello and commend you on one fine post. <br /><br />:)kjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15122196887043345981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-87295040154293543202009-07-23T02:35:49.404-07:002009-07-23T02:35:49.404-07:00I'm not certain if I would have stopped or not...I'm not certain if I would have stopped or not, although I like to think I would have.<br /><br />I wouldn't be too put off by the woman's initial sarcastic response at the end. Presuming any of her story was true, you've planted a seed of an idea that might yet bare fruit.Barryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13824632356834631279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-72410009001184492462009-07-22T11:16:17.943-07:002009-07-22T11:16:17.943-07:00A first hand lesson in pithiness!
Thanks for dropp...A first hand lesson in pithiness!<br />Thanks for dropping by my blogs. <br />and giving me a smile, mr don't care about people worth the powder to blow them to hell. <br /><br />BTW "The General" is one of my favorite silents.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14765471525284790079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-44303384167392499492009-07-22T08:35:51.251-07:002009-07-22T08:35:51.251-07:00KC " I live in "happy valley' where ...KC " I live in "happy valley' where the only thing I encounter is lost dogs and I always help them if they will let me."<br /><br />Ah, yes, I've heard of the place. Lost dogs are the only problem, and they always find their way back to their loving homes unscathed. I'll start packing as soon as I get up from here.<br /><br />You are welcome, Chrisy.<br /><br />OF COURSE I made them, Jane?! Well, I guess I didn't need to put it like THAT. Here's how it is, I've baked for decades. First, yeast breads, then crackers, cornbreads, and biscuits. I rarely run out of biscuits and cornbreads, and never do I run out of crackers. I take these things seriously. When Peggy bakes, she bakes pies or cookies, and I always help with the pies and often with the cookies. I gave my Parmesan cracker recipe further up the page of responses.<br /><br />Jane "once she told me the same story she told you, I don't think I would have spent another minute with her"<br /><br />Walking away abruptly would have added to her despair, and I HAD stopped to help.Snowbrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00436087215476479042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-51023838455833934582009-07-22T08:03:16.603-07:002009-07-22T08:03:16.603-07:00Thanks for the laugh Snow, I definitely needed it ...Thanks for the laugh Snow, I definitely needed it this morning and could almost taste the peanut butter on homemade Parmesan crackers! (Did you make them BTW, or did Peggy or a thoughtful neighbor?)<br /><br />If it had been me seeing and hearing that woman in front of the library, I would have stopped to find out if she was hurt and, if so, would have called paramedics immediately. <br /><br />However, once she told me the same story she told you, I don't think I would have spent another minute with her except to advise her to look in the yellow pages for a clinic. And I wouldn't have felt guilty one tiny bit by walking off, thinking about those homemade Parmesan crackers with peanut butter. No sir.<br /><br />JaneAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16813508472498593787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-41392805804802154632009-07-22T03:07:09.865-07:002009-07-22T03:07:09.865-07:00Hey Snow...just had to come by and thank you for y...Hey Snow...just had to come by and thank you for your wellness wishes...kindness and caring are such wonderful attributes and I thank you for sharing yours with me...and I loved the 'damn damn damn' bit...the words portrayed exactly how I was feelin at that time!Chrisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01954004833710064612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23830899.post-37094096120419325792009-07-21T20:58:17.070-07:002009-07-21T20:58:17.070-07:00Obviously, from all the comments this was a though...Obviously, from all the comments this was a thought provoking blog. I commend you for trying. I don't know what I would have done given the same situation. I live in "happy valley' where the only thing I encounter is lost dogs and I always help them if they will let me.<br />Thanks for the comment on my blog about the conversation about your schnauzer. It made me laugh that you made the woman think you were serious. What a great sense of humor.KChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14849696894736822970noreply@blogger.com